2 Samuel 13:15
Then Amnon hated her exceedingly; so that the hatred wherewith he hated her was greater than the love wherewith he had loved her. And Amnon said unto her, Arise, be gone.
2 Samuel 13:15
This verse records a chilling shift: Amnon’s hatred surpasses his prior affection for Tamar, followed by a declaration of separation—“Arise, be gone.” The rapid swing from “love” to “hatred” illustrates a corrupt moral recalibration that can accompany sinful actions—lust that becomes disillusionment and rejection of the victim. This moment confirms Tamar’s vulnerability and Amnon’s coldness. The social consequence is severe: Tamar is banished from the presence of her family, and the relationship that began with deceit ends in abandonment. The text emphasizes how sin escalates and dehumanizes the person it harms, leaving emotional and social wreckage in its wake. It also foreshadows Absalom’s later pursuit of vengeance, revealing a cycle of violence within the royal family.
Theologically, the verse highlights the deceptive nature of sin and the radical disintegration it brings to relationships. Love that becomes exploitation reveals a counterfeit form of love—one that uses power to dominate rather than to protect. The deepening hatred after abuse demonstrates how the offender’s heart is hardened, and it serves as a sobering reminder of human depravity and the need for divine grace and justice. The verse also points to the fragility of community when leaders fail to uphold justice and mercy.
For today, this verse warns against treating others as means to an end. If you’ve ever indulged in a moment of lust or manipulation, repent and seek restitution, repairing the harm where possible. It’s a call to uphold boundaries, condemn abuse, and advocate for survivors. In communities, ensure that accusations are addressed with care, fairness, and accountability, avoiding retaliation or silence. Recognize that emotional healing after exploitation takes time and supportive relationships. In families, model healthy ways to process anger, hurt, and disappointment without retaliatory cycles of vengeance.
Cross-References: Matthew 5:28; Romans 12:17-21; Proverbs 6:27-29; 1 Thessalonians 4:3-6; Hosea 4:10