1 Timothy 3:11
Even so must their wives be grave, not slanderers, sober, faithful in all things.
1 Timothy 3:11
“Even so must their wives be grave, not slanderers, sober, faithful in all things” extends the leadership standards to the spouses of deacons (and, by context, elders). The emphasis is on character, reputation, and steadiness in relationships. The word “grave” again signals seriousness and dignity; “not slanderers” cautions against damaging others with speech; “sober” and “faithful in all things” highlight steadiness and reliability.
This verse recognizes the leadership community as a shared enterprise that includes families. It reinforces that the quality of leadership is relationally anchored, and that a leader’s influence is affected by those connected to them, particularly a spouse.
Practical steps: encourage spouses’ participation in leadership development, with clear expectations about conduct and support within the marriage. Maintain a culture of mutual accountability for couples in leadership. For individuals, invest in family health and communication; for churches, provide pastoral care and resources that support families in leadership roles.
Cross-References
- 1 Corinthians 7:13-14
- Proverbs 31:11-12
- 1 Timothy 3:12
- Romans 12:10