1 Corinthians 7:12
But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away.
1 Corinthians 7:12
Verse 12 marks a transition: “But to the rest speak I, not the Lord,” indicating Paul is providing guidance for situations the Lord did not explicitly address in Jesus’ teaching. He speaks to believers who are married to unbelievers. The instruction is nuanced: if the unbelieving spouse consents to dwell with the believer, the believing spouse should not seek to separate. The cultural and religious tension of mixed-faith marriages is central here. The verse assumes the possibility that a believer’s presence may sanctify a household to some degree, and that peace and witness can sometimes be maintained through such marriages.
This verse underscores sanctification within the family as a gracious, relational process rather than a coercive program. It acknowledges human complexity and preserves the possibility of missionary influence through steadfastness and kindness in marriage to an unbelieving spouse. It also highlights the authority of Scripture while recognizing that not every scenario is covered by direct biblical command, requiring pastoral discernment.
Practical steps: if you’re married to an unbeliever, invest in humble, loving, consistent witness—through character, prayer, and integrity—without pressuring your partner. Seek church support, counseling, and community accountability. If your spouse is open, discuss boundaries, mutual respect, and shared values as a platform for witness. For those in mixed-faith marriages, cultivate daily practices that reflect Christ in the home, while respecting your partner’s autonomy.
Cross-References: 1 Corinthians 7:14; 2 Corinthians 6:14-15; 1 Peter 3:1-2; 1 Corinthians 7:11; Romans 12:18